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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the majority of UMC moms are uninterested in making friends.  They are working and tending to their own families.  [/quote]

Agree. [b] I also find that a lot of the suburban moms are actually from the area and have HS friends and family local that they hang out with — they are not looking to add new friends.[/b]  And also a lot of moms only want new friends that come as a couple — the husbands have to get along as well because that’s how they do most social get-together.  I wish there was some pin we could wear or something that designates we are looking for friends.   I’ve spent a lot of time developing casual friendships with other moms, only to realize belatedly that they don’t really have space in their life for additional friends.  [/quote]

I've definitely found the bolded to be true. The Moms who grew up in this area and still have family that lives locally typically spends a lot of time with the extended family in the area, as well as a group of 2-3 close friends from back in the day, so for better or worse, they don't really have the bandwidth for cultivating new friendships. I've found that the parents who have close relationships with other parents are those who don't have family in the area, probably because they have more time and they have to rely on those other groups of friends more often. 
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I'm a working mom who grew up in this area.  I am still close with my childhood BFF, but that's about it from when I was younger.  My local family is fairly fragmented, as many families are.  I also, despite working FT and having three kids, have made multiple close friends since I had kids.  Neighbors, people I met working out, people I met through the kids' school or daycare (even if they kids don't stay close).

[b]People who want friends and who are, themselves, good friends, prioritize keeping friends and making new ones.  It's both as simple and as difficult as that.[/b]  [/quote]

+1 to the bolded. Anyone who says otherwise is just making excuses. Everyone needs friends, and if you keep putting in the effort, you will make some.[/quote]

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