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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHM and DH earns a very high income. When it comes to everyday spending on food, house, kids and family activities, his money is my money and everything is equal. Then our savings, brokerage, retirement accounts are way off. DH has way more, maybe 10x what I have. Where I really feel it is not my money is I have to ask and negotiate with DH for anything for my elderly parents in poor health. My dad needs a full time aid or nurse or get put into a nursing home. I understand these are high costs and DH does not want to pay these. His parents are younger and still in good health. I don’t like the position that I am in and will likely go back to work just to pay for my parents care.[/quote]

I didn’t read all the responses but I would say that if both you and your DH both worked and contributed equal financial contributions to savings, retirements etc. it still could be a negotiation for any big ticket items including this. There can also be inter sibling negotiation about helping parents because it can feel unfair for one person to shoulder both time and money.

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+1.  
This got framed as a SAHM thing, but I don't really think it is.  Even if they both contributed equally, and even if OP were the breadwinner, big things like this would need to be discussed and negotiated.  
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