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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Moved here 25 years ago, girlfriend joined me, became my wife and we have 3 kids. She’s hated Alexandria since 2003 and never lets me forget it. Either move or keep cheerful but don’t complain about it every 72 hours.

Life in your town has gone on without you and your absence has been filled, friends and family have new responsibilities and tighter social circles, your return to Pottersville may not be what you were expecting. 
What you may really be missing is being childless and 27. [/quote]

You've put up with your spouses griping for 25 years?  Sit her down and gently but firmly say, "I love you but you need to stop whining about this.   Make the best of it or don't.  If you really hate it here, there's the door.  Don't let it hit you on the rear end on your way out."[/quote]

I bet that if he would actually let her and the 3 kids go, they would be out the door.

As it is, he’s using the kids to trap her into staying with him.  [/quote]

No, she couldn't just take the kids with her.  You're missing the point that these sorts of conflicts aren't really about where they live at all.  That's just a symptom of the overall relationship dysfunction and inability to resolve conflicts.  PP says he has listened to his wife complain  about it for 25 years, but he doesn't want to move.   The issue needs to be resolved one way or the other.  She needs to stop complaining, or he needs to learn to accept her complaining as the cost of not moving.  But him complaining about her complaining is pointless [/quote]

I don’t leverage the kids to stay in NoVa; our situation is unique because I sort of have a tiger by the tail and that tiger provides us an incredible life. That same tiger is was raised in northern Virginia and would not do well in southern Florida- in fact it would die.  
I really like new places and I would move but I don’t want to be poor and my DW definitely doesn’t what to be poor.  Life is wonderful here and the reasons for not leaving are many, so don’t complain when you see Florida on TV.[/quote]

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