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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't. I'm hoping they thank me later. Oldest not yet in high school, though, which is when it may be hard to hold out.

My closest childhood friend works for one of the big Silicon Valley companies. Her kids go to "Forest School" and she tries not to let them see the parents on devices at all. She's seen into the belly of the beast and knows enough to be scared.[/quote]

I have two in high school in fcps. Neither has it.
They are doing just fine. [/quote]

That’s cool. So are all the kids I know who do have it. We can share anecdotes all day.[/quote]

Sure Jan [/quote]

I know for some strange reason you want to believe all teens are depressed and mentally ill, but they just aren’t. Sorry to…disappoint you?[/quote]

DP. You think if a kid isn’t showing signs of full blown depression or mental illness that social media isn’t possibly affecting their mental wellbeing?[/quote]

No, but neither is it accurate to say that ALL or even MOST teens who have social media are negatively affected by it. It simply isn't true. The people asserting that either don't have teens at all, or their teens are not on social media, so they have no idea. [/quote]

Depends on how you define “negatively affected.”[/quote]

So your oldest is 8? 10? I know your type.[/quote]

Why do you assume that? My oldest is 15.[/quote]

If they don’t have social media, you are not qualified to remark on how it’s affecting their mental health. [/quote]

Geez, you REALLY love social media for your kids (and likely yourself). I know your type, too.[/quote]

Yet here you are. So much hand wringing![/quote]

Sigh.

If you believe DCUMAD is in any way comparable to the social media defendants being sued by 30 separate States Attorneys General, then you are truly stupid.

Perhaps TikTok has rotted your brain? [/quote]

DP but please explain the difference.  This site is addictive and a waste of time and is generally negative.  (For example, if you were discussing this issue with PP would you call her “truly stupid” to her face?  I should certainly hope not!)

This form of social media (and it absolutely IS social media) is not inherently better just because it’s the form that YOU’RE addicted to.[/quote]

DP and I actually largely agree, but I don't think it proves OP wrong.

I hate my DCUM use. And I wound up on this site largely because I stopped or greatly reduced using other forms of social media. Kind of like how if you go to an AA meeting, a LOT of people smoke cigarettes. That doesn't mean cigarettes are *good* for those folks, but they will kill them slightly slower than alcohol would.

I don't want my kid using social media OR DCUM. But there is little risk in my kid developing a DCUM habit right now, whereas Tik Tok is definitely on the table. So I restrict Tik Tok and hope if I can prevent my kid from ever getting addicted to social media, she won't later be addicted to DCUM like I am. It's not hypocrisy, it's learning from your own mistakes and hoping to do better by my kids.[/quote]

In your case it’s not hypocrisy because you are aware of your own shortcomings and trying to use that information to make better decisions for your kids (FTR I agree).

I take issue with social media addicted adults (who deny their own addiction) turning around and criticizing/judging everyone ELSE for THEIR shortcomings.

My pessimistic take is that social media is bad for kids but this is the world the adults have created for them, and trying to keep your kids off it completely is a losing battle.  Better to help them learn to use it responsibly.[/quote]

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