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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread sounds like a lot of parents of younger children. The socialization of teens is pretty different from the socialization of elementary schoolers. They have different needs and different levels of autonomy. Banning your kids from any kind of social media absolutely WILL cause them to be excluded socially. Is this an awesome thing to have happen? Of course not. But the reality is that if you don't let your kids use Discord and all their friends are socializing via Discord out of school, your kid will miss that socialization. That's a choice you can make, but recognize that there will be social consequences for that choice.

People with older kids are generally a lot better at understanding that nuance than the people whose kids are still in elementary school. The rules that one has for a 6yo are less appropriate for a 16yo, which the parents of 6yo almost never seem to understand.[/quote]

None of this addresses the facts:

- it’s successfully engineered to be highly addictive

- it’s harmful to teen brains, and

- everyone gives it to their kids anyway.[/quote]

Everyone either allows or forces all sorts of choices on teens every single day that are either not in the best interest of physical/mental health or are even actively harmful!

How early does your teen wake up for school or sports?  How often is your teen riding in a car rather than walking or biking?  How many hours of completely unstructured free time do your children have each day?  How often do you allow your teens out alone in the world completely unsupervised and with no quick way to contact them?  And so on.

Social media is a low hanging fruit for people to judge other parents without ever having to seriously examine some of the potential consequences of their own less than ideal choices, IMO.[/quote]

DP - what makes you think those of us concerned about social media ignore issues like sleep, car riding, etc.?  IME, most parents don’t bother to look at real risks like these, because that would require setting limits with kids and they don’t want to do that. [/quote]

Your response makes me think you ignore those issues based on the fact that you didn’t actually answer the questions and you don’t want to admit how badly you’re failing your kids in THOSE areas.  Easier to turn the subject back to those awful parents who allow social media![/quote]

Sure, Heather, you’ve caught me now!

Except that I’m the only parent of (11 year old) DD’s friends who won’t let her ride in the front seat.  Or give her a phone with unfettered access to YouTube, TikTok, etc.  Or who limits sleepovers because she needs her sleep.  But sure, you go on with your brilliant assumptions![/quote]

You have once again avoided answering the questions.

How often is she riding in a car rather than walking or biking?  What time is she waking up in the morning to go to school?  What time does she go to sleep at night?  What’s her diet like?  How much unstructured free time does she have?  How often is she going outside?

The restrictions you put on her sound like they’re mostly for show.  So other parents can SEE what a good parent you are.  But that still has nothing to do with her actual day to day existence.[/quote]

Lol - guess what?   Answering a set of increasingly intrusive questions by some internet rando would be "mostly for show."  Hard pass.[/quote]

I can see that my questions have triggered you.  Maybe spend some time thinking deeply about why that is, and less time judging the parenting skills of “internet randos”.  Good luck![/quote]

So much projection.  So.Much.Projection.[/quote]

I know it must be a good point because you said it twice.  I’ll bet you were captain of your high school debate team.[/quote]

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