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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do these kids expect their father to live as a single man for the rest of his life? Are they going to provide his elder care? His companionship? Or are they going to get married and have kids of their own? They need to let there( 50ish?) yesr old parents live their lives. [/quote]

I think their hope was that he would marry someone they like better, with no kids or with kids they are more compatible with.[/quote]

And that’s fair. We all grieve things in our lives that don’t happen the way we want them to. Especially a big one like your dads new wife. And these adult kids are young and immature so they’re venting to their cousins saying childish stuff like “if dads wife comes, I’m not going!” But most likely, in reality, they will move on and behave like normal people and not boycott thanksgiving over something pretty routine like dad re marrying, once they’re adults and out of the house. Like this is small potatoes in terms of “family trauma”. They’ll be ok. The real issue here is OP reading her own college aged kids texts with their cousins. Doesn’t sound like the adult kids have actually threatened to boycott thanksgiving, so, this is a big nothingburger[/quote]

If their dad can get divorced, showing everyone he thinks family relationships are optional, then they can skip Thanksgiving. They're not married to Thanksgiving. None of this was their idea.[/quote]

Cut the hysteria. “Showing everyone he thinks family relationships are optional”. You guys are really projecting. More than half of marriages end in divorce. The fact that these 2 people stuck it out until their kids were adults/ near adult age is good. This is so minor compared to what other families suffer through. So dramatic![/quote]

Then the 2nd marriage for dad is just as doomed. Why should his kids bother to get the know the new wife and her kids? Since they are adults now they can start making their own holiday traditions.[/quote]

Which is fine! And doesn’t involve refusing to invite people’s wives to holidays. They can come or not. Fine! Seriously fine![/quote]

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