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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven’t read all of the pages, but based on some of OP’s follow ups—OP, I think you have a you problem more than a difficult child problem. [/quote]

As somebody who is kind of like OP and has a child like OP's child, I disagree. I have another child who is just chill and easy. Definitely grumbles and has some big emotions, but nothing like my daughter. Had I only had my second child, my issues wouldn't have made parenting harder.

I"m the PP who mentioned doing a lot of proactive work to prevent my daughter's blow ups from making me lose my cool, so I do think that OP should focus on changing herself. But really, some kids just require super-parenting. [/quote]

OP - yes that is the thing, I have 2 other kids and I definitely find parenting them way way easier.  [b]I parent them very similarly[/b] but for my older DD has explosive emotional responses to the same thing I say to her as I do her younger siblings. [/quote]

Yes. This is the problem. You are parenting your oldest like your other two. Different kids have different needs, hence this is a parenting problem. I mean what's the alternative? This isn't your child's fault. [/quote]

OP don’t listen to this judgmental idiot.  I have an extremely similar dynamic and I totally get what you’re saying.  One thing that has actually started to help is practicing Stoicism with my kids (only the oldest needs it).  We talk about the circle of control and how we can’t control our emotions but we can always control our behavior, stuff like that.  When the oldest is starting to get worked up about something I remind them to focus on what they can control and it seems to help about 50 percent of the time.[/quote]

Kids aren't one size fits all. OP is patting herself on the back about her parenting being great...for two of her kids. I'm pointing out that if it's not working for one of her kids then it's not working and she needs to change something. Of course parenting easy kids is easier! But you don't get to just throw your hands up and give up on the hard one. [/quote]

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