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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a daughter who sounds very similar to yours. We've made it to 13, and I recommend you figure things out now, before you get to teenage hormones.

1. You need to figure out how to alleviate the you/her oppositional dynamic. She's not your enemy, she is your child. In our case, dad had to really step up. He got involved in her sport, which also got her out of her siblings' hair.

2. Work on stability and predictability. This does take time, but putting in the time will save time on tantrums.

3. Some one-on-one quality time, something both of you enjoy (in our case, shopping).

4. Think about if she's an introvert and needs some alone/down time. Consider doing yoga with her, or some other way for her to relax/recharge.

5. Is there anything you can change in your own life, that would allow you not to skip meals and get enough sleep? That, honestly, might work much better than medicating your child (not against medication, but it seems like a more reasonable first approach). [/quote]

Op - thank you for your message. I definitely want to fix this before teenage hormones are involved!

I agree dad is much better at connecting with her than me. When he is home he deals with her meltdowns. Unfortunately he back in the office a lot more now.

I try and get to sleep early when I can but sometimes I need to decompress after everyone gets to bed so I take an hour or two to myself after the kids sleep. I wake up at 6:30 every morning to get everything ready before the kids get up.

Eating is harder - I eat lunch but dinners are hard because we leave at 5pm and don’t get home until 7 and then it’s a mad rush to get the kids bathed and to bed. By the time they are asleep it 8:30-9pm and I don’t feel like eating that late. I do try to have a snack before we leave at 5pm. [/quote]

Where are you from 5 to 7pm every night?[/quote]

OP - some sort of athletic event for one of the kids. [/quote]

I know there are other issues at play, but it does seem like having a calmer, less rushed, less busy home life might be helpful all around, and it's a pretty easy change to make. Your kids are so young and don't need to be doing so many sporting events especially during dinnertime. Maybe scale back and see if that helps? [/quote]

+1 A busy activities schedule is not helping your situation. Seems like your family is at a boiling point and it is time to simply where you can. [/quote]

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