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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The starting point is having a personal morality that you work from infancy to inculcate into your child, teaching that sexual relations have meaning beyond the mechanics and are not simply pleasant friction between two hormonally attracted individuals.[/quote]

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Most teens globally are not having sex, so it is actually not the norm to be sexually active.  In fact, I wonder why any teen would have sex?  It makes them vulnerable and  messes them up in so many ways.

I think that how teens think about sex is a function of their  family dynamics, socialization, attitude of the parents  and culture.  Also, teens who lack a sense of purpose and pride in their achievement, and who do not get time from the parents - quality and quantity - are more apt to have sex.[/quote]

I have to wonder what your childhood was like or if you, perhaps, are not NT.  People, not just teens, have sex for all kinds of reasons but one of the biggest is that it (and the lead up to it) feel really good. NOTHING feels like sexual attraction and the physicality of sex.  Even when there are abhorrent, tragic consequences for having extra/pre-marital sex, people engage in it because of the feelings and pleasure it generates.  How can you not know that or remember that from your youth? I was born in the 60s in the rural, conservative, bible thumping midwest.  A girl/woman's value was definitely diminished having sex outside of marriage or, god forbid, being a 'slut'. Yet, teen pregnancy was prevalent.

Unless you're willing to lock down your teens and impose stiffling restrictions and conditions on them, you cannot completely control their bodily autonomy. You are better off having age appropriate conversations about sex, contraception, feelings, relationships and medical care starting at early ages so that when your kids are making decisions, they make better ones.  Don't forget to include drugs/alcohol in those conversations. [/quote]

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