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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How disgusting Mila and Ashton wrote letters. Gross fake wile celebs. [/quote]

That’s a tough one for me.
If they are friends, which they have been for a very long time, they likely do not believe that their friend is capable of such atrocities. 
A character letter doesn’t speak to the veracity of the charge. It just says we know him to be a swell guy, and we love and trust him, etc. 
If you were accused of doing these things and you swore up and down to your friends and to the world that you didn’t do it —wouldn’t you hope that one or two of those friends would say “yes of course I will write a character reference for you”

They may truly believe him to be innocent.
And in that case, it isn’t disgusting for them to write a letter on his behalf that says something to the effect of “these accusations are not aligned with the person that I’ve known him to be over the past 30 years”[/quote]

I can't view it this way because I've experienced, as a rape survivor, being told by people "that's just not who he is," and it's just gaslighting. Good for you he never raped you, but you don't actually know he is, and acting like your experience with him can be placed next to my experience and weighed equally is BS.

Statements like this also tend to emphasize to survivors that they were chosen as victims specifically because they lacked the power and social capital of others. Masterson would never have attacked Kunis because she, like him, was famous and wealthy and there was no power differential to exploit. He only raped people he could dominate. This is a horrible feeling as a survivor, to realize you were chosen for your relative weakness, that your attacker knew people would be less likely to care about what happens to you or believe what you have to say.

And usually it works, and it dies so specifically because people in power will circle up and protect one of their own. Which is what Mila and Ashton were doing. Glad to see it didnt work this time.[/quote]

I get where you're coming from with this. And I'm so sorry that you experienced this in your past.
You offer that you view it from the point of view of the survivor, which makes sense.
Would you have a different view of it if you were the accused who genuinely professed to be innocent? (I'm not saying he is innocent. But it does happen that there are people who are falsely accused.) Do you never think it is okay to say "this person is my friend and I believe him"?? Would you offer this in support of your husband, for example? Or your brother?
Or is that not possible to do given your history as a survivor of rape? (I'm sincerely asking, not trying to antagonize.)
Because I do get your point that they can't KNOW what he is doing every possible minute of the day. But I can 100% tell you that if anyone accused my DH of this, I would not only feel confident of his innocence, but I would be happy to say "I cannot speak to whether he did this because I was not a witness, but I will offer that if the evidence shows that he did this, it is in stark contrast to any character traits that I have ever witnessed from him in our 20+ years of marriage."
And I dont think that's the same as calling someone a liar or saying it didn't happen.[/quote]

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