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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is the PP who says you should talk less, act more. You dismiss what I say, saying you won’t live in a sty. You also say you don’t want a divorce. Is this how you are with your spouse, you just dismiss everything he says and just stick to your complaints? If so, then I understand why he says you are making things miserable and why he avoids you. Why are you stuck in this role and unwilling to change? How does it benefit you—It *must* benefit you because you are choosing it.
I seriously think you need therapy and possibly medication for depression. If nothing else therapy would help you find new strategies and ways of talking to your husband.
If your response to that is that therapy won’t work and that you are too busy for therapy because your spouse is so lazy and awful, then I suggest you look up the term “help rejecting complainer” and consider the possibility that The situation you were in with your husband is actually extremely comfortable for you despite the fact that you say you hate it.
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Op here. I am in therapy. I've asked him to do the same (individually) because I think it would be beneficial and he won't. I wouldn't say I'm depressed (thanks for the armchair diagnosis) but I am extremely burned out. [/quote]

OP do not listen to this poster *he* I'd gaslighting you to make it look like you are the problem. His whole premise is that your husband had a preference for doing things a certain way and that you need to learn to accept every last bit of it.[/quote]

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