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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am cracking up at all these big laws wives acting like just because their DH is “home for dinner” or “drives to practice” - both of which I have no trouble believing - but leave out the part where their spouse is on the phone either texting or talking almost the entire day with brief pauses. Either you bill a ton of hours or you are so good at business development you don’t need to bill as many hours, but the latter requires a ton of lunches/dinners/evening events/golf, etc. Anyone trying to asset their big law husband basically works fed hours is straight up lying. Also, their spouse has never taken a vacation in their entire career that they didn’t work at least a small part of. Same for paternity leaves. The women have made their peace for their family and for the money, which there is nothing wrong with, but I’m not sure why they need to sugarcoat it.

Big Law Spouse[/quote]

This, though from my experience Big Law spouses are as competitive and status conscious as their attorney partners, and I think that's why you get these responses that are like "my Big Law partner husband works 50 hours a week, does all the nighttime feedings, and coaches the Little League team, also he makes $2m a year and not only do I not work, I have a nanny and a housekeeper." It's about winning. If the status marker is just money or prestige, it's "my DH makes more than yours and his firm is more impressive." But if it's about family time and relationship quality, it's going to be "my DH is an attentive father and never lets work get in the way of the kids or our relationship." Of course those things are mutually exclusive but if your whole raison d'être in life is to be better than everyone else, admitting the tradeoffs inherent in the choices you've made is not acceptable.

It's exhausting to be around, which is why most of my friends are NOT spouses of Big Law partners.[/quote]

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