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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Being the middle literally stopped me from creating one.  [/b]My kids are 6 years apart, so same distance between oldest and youngest in my family of origin but without the middle.

Only way I would have had 3 is of the youngest were twins.  That didn't happen.  My oldest is responsible and independent.  [b]I do find I spoil the little one a bit more and she also is the jokester in the family.  [/b]I do fancy dinner dates with the older so she also gets plenty of my attention and time.  Never would I have a 3rd!!! Not enough time to do right by everyone.[/quote]

Sounds like your first will have an only.[/quote]

My first is in medical school right now and planning to have 2 children when she finishes her residency.  My younger one wants to be a lawyer and doesn’t know if she wants kids yet; she is still quite young (in HS).  I didn’t know if I wanted kids either until I was late 20s.

I took parenting classes to ensure I don’t repeat the mistakes of my parents.  I also spoke openly about how I felt to my children through all the many stages of parenting.  I always told them I am navigating this parenting thing new and I will always try my best, knowing that I too will make mistakes.  I approached parenting with a lot of humility because I did not feel that i had the best example and I wanted more for my kids.  Each of my kids KNOW they are my favorite in different ways; and they are right.  As I mentioned I love my fancy dinner dates with my older one.  The younger one doesn’t like fancy food, much less sitting for a long meal - my older one relishes the opportunity.  The youngest one is the type of girl who makes friends wherever she goes, always making people smile.  They are different people and I love them equally and differently for who they are and they love each other.  They are quite close.

It is possible to love kids equally for who they are no matter how many of them there are!  That’s your answer OP.  I stopped at 2 because I wasn’t confident I would not fall into the trap my parents did, so I avoided the trap.  The truth is there are other adults who grew up in 3 children households who are very well adjusted.  I think their parents were better than mine; they took the time to get to know all their children and bond uniquely with them.[/quote]

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