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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not gotten any benefits. My siblings had their children at younger ages so our mother was able to babysit their kids, take them on trips to Disney, etc. My kids have no memory of their grandmother being all there physically or mentally.

I have asked siblings to set up POA, start paying bills etc. I called one doctor and asked that they send the bill to one sibling and they told me they tried to do that but when they called the sibling said they didn't want it. They are too busy.

So the person who said with a sigh (special place in hell for you) just make a conference call, wave my magic wand and get it set up clearly doesn't understand dealing with an elderly difficult parent with out of town siblings who are in denial. There isn't a lot of money. Hiring someone to do things takes a person to be in charge to hire the person. I don't want to do it and my siblings just delay because they are in denial. Moving to a different facility requires visiting them, convincing her to move, hiring movers, etc. I don't want to do that either as it would suck up so much time and mental effort.

I need strategies of someone who has been through this who has worked their way out of being so involved. My mother could pass away next year or ten years from now.

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Your siblings are not in denial and your mother is not being difficult, they are squeezing you as long as you allow it. The only “strategy” for people in your position is to walk away.[/quote]

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