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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with others suggesting that this really is a “you” problem. Expecting your brothers and sisters to spend their vacation time taking care of your mother is unrealistic. And, even if they did it, it would just put a dent in your responsibilities. What good is having your brother or sister in town for a week or two going to do in the grand scheme of things?

You simply have to decide that you are going to do less yourself. You cannot decide that your brothers and sisters are going to do more. The only thing you can even consider doing when it comes to them is to hit them up for more money to help pay others to assist your mother. But beyond money, there’s nothing you can do, and if they say no to money, there’s also nothing you can do. This is all up to you.[/quote]

Says the sibling who never helps out. Pound sand. [/quote]

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OP can also choose to never help out.   She's making the choice to do it.[/quote]

Of course it is a choice. She is doing it because it is the right thing to do. Her siblings are losers![/quote]

This is how women get guilted into negating their own needs and spend their life catering to kids, husbands and parents. The right thing to do is for this woman to prioritize her own life. The siblings can move closer, travel back and forth, hire help or just leave mom on her own. [/quote]

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