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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been tight with about six other moms since Kindergarten. Our girls have always been close. Moms genuinely close too. But I know it's always a danger to meet through kids - though I thought our friendship transcended this. I was maybe naive.

My DD has begun pulling away from one of the girls in the group. It is not personal. They have different interests. However, my DD is seen as a "cool" girl because she is sporty, and the other girl is more artsy and creative. Well apparently, there was a text spat between the girls - or some kind of misunderstanding - where the former friend wanted to hang out with DD and her new friends and my DD said no. The girl became incredibly upset, left school early, came come in tears, and the mom -- my friend -- got mad at me for allowing my DD to "drop" and bully her child.

I saw the texts and immediately talked to my own DD. My DD should have and could have been kinder in declining hanging out. But she wasn't bullying. She was excluding. But they just don't have anything in common and she does not really like this girl. But now the other mom is asking our friends to pick sides, complaining about my DD to our mutual friends, and wants to invite me to drinks to discuss what to do going into the new year.

I just feel sick over this whole thing and have zero desire to get involved in my child's social life in this way.[b] I also do not want to raise a mean girl,[/b] but I think my kid should be able to drift from friends as a relationship ages out without repercussions. Anyone BTDT? I do still like the mother but this is putting a strain on our longtime circle.[/quote]

You already did.[/quote]

Genuinely curious: How so? Are people supposed to meet in K and remain friends for life?[/quote]

Your child doesn't have to remain friends for life, but should know to always be kind.

My DD has a friend group since PK. While she is no longer super close to all of them, she remains a kind and supportive acquaintance.

There are ways to say no without being nasty and mean. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Who knows what may happen in the future. Your child is the cool one now, but the other girl may end up having have a far better life than your DD. How would you feel if it was your daughter being rejected? Answer that and proceed with kindness.[/quote]

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