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6. No +1 weddings: This is rude
5. Dry weddings: I don't drink so I don't care.
3. No open bar weddings: Again, don't drink, don't care.
3. Destination weddings: The couple is doing this for a reason, lol. You don't have to go. 
2. Weddings of couples who ask for cash: Let's get away from the lame gifts. I don't care if they ask. They probably don't want/need another dish towel.
1. No-kids weddings - Absolute love this![/quote]

We didn't invite +1 for our unattached friends.  They took matters into their own hands, and paired off at the reception.  Watching them come into the breakfast the next morning was great.

I do not, for the life of me, know why someone would want to bring a date to a wedding if they were single.  [/quote]
+1 I married at 24 and my mom was in charge of most of this stuff, and her rule was that if you were in a relationship (or married obviously) you got a +1 but if you weren’t, you didn’t. I still think it’s pretty fair and it only caused one minor issue.[/quote]

But at 24 things can change quickly. You can be single 6 months before the wedding when the guest list is drawn up and in a serious relationship by the time the wedding rolls around. Adding a +1 avoids the awkwardness of having to ask if you can bring your significant other.[/quote]

Well, that's also a little unfair to the bride and groom. Things change quickly so you may go from having a date to the wedding to not having a date to the wedding, and the hosts don't want to pay for (nor have optics of) empty table settings. In no other circumstance would you expect a friend to shell out $100 a plate to feed someone you may barely know, and if you're 24, chances are the couple is on a tight budget.[/quote]

Asking your friend to leave their s/o behind because of your "tight budget" is rude. And what kind of significant other do you barely know? That would be an insignificant other.[/quote]

This was in response to someone saying that their relationship status changes quickly at age 24. If invites go out 2 months before the wedding and people need a +1 just in case they go from single to seeing someone, then bride and groom likely won’t know the s/o.  [/quote]

The wedding is planned long before the invites go out with the headcount in mind. Just because your friend was [b]planned [/b]6 months to a year before the invites go out doesn't mean they remain single. [/quote]

I meant "single" of course. And obviously things change, couples break up, someone might not bring a +1, and others might bring a new boyfriend/girlfriend. It's not going to greatly impact the numbers one way or the other to just do a +1.

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I was married at 24.  We gave a +1 to anyone we knew was dating someone at the time the invite went out, and/or called and invited the person to bring their new S/O if we knew they started seeing someone after they'd already received invite.  We did plan out the guest list when choosing the reception hall, but given that we were quite young and the very first of our friends to get married, adding a plus one to all of our friends would have been another 40 or so people.  We had some ask to bring someone and we said yes.  Of those one brought a blind date (which was kind of weird) and one brought their sibling because they couldn't find a date.  Each of the people that did not originally receive a +1 woud have known at least a table full of people at the wedding.  If I were inviting someone not tied to others also attending, I would have added a +1 (and did).  At 24, an additional 40 people at the wedding would have been significant to our budget and we didn't want to exclude actual friends.  I understand more the need to do a +1 if the invitees are older, but the vast majority of our friends were under 25 and single at the time.  We had an open bar.  20 years later our friends still talk about it being a fun night.[/quote]

Inviting 40 of our closest friends at 24 was the problem. How many of those people do you still keep in touch with?[/quote]

All via social media and most I see at least 1-2x per year as we tend to plan group activities around the holidays/summer when we're in our hometown.  Or, they visit when their travels take them here.[/quote]

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