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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’re not a pretty family as individuals, but I’m a white mom with an Asian DH and a mixed child. If we’re cleaned up and out and about together, we inevitably get the “what a beautiful family!” comments from older white men and women. I think it’s mostly happiness at seeing a family out together looking cleaned up and freshly pressed, but sometimes it’s obvious that the commenter is happy to see a mixed family and/or one with atypical gender/race mix.

The places I see this happen most to any kind of families are hotels, brunch places, church, and the pool clubhouse. I think it’s places where people are primed to make a social connection and are feeling outgoing and cheerful.[/quote]

We are not white and we get this a lot too, always older white folks. It’s always when we are dressed up in a preppy way. I think the intention is innocent but subconsciously, they are pleased that we are assimilating to what they are used to. And then, also subconsciously, they can tell themselves they aren’t racist because our family made them happy and they gave some brown people a compliment. But as they do it, I do think they are well intentioned and just want to say something nice. [/quote]

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