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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this forum a bunch of moochers looking to get wasted on the weekends? What is wrong with op complaining anonymously? It's good to get those thoughts out. It even helps soften you up later.[/quote] No. But I do see when family is in a bind and I don’t hold grudges. Everyone needs a night off now and again. This isn’t a huge ask, even if you don’t consider your in laws family. It’s one night and a long morning. [/quote] OP here. We aren't the only option for SIL/BIL to have a night off. There are plenty of other options for them. I'd argue it is a huge ask, it's giving up time that my DH and I would rather be doing other things. DH said himself that we had one kid for a reason. His sister sees it your way; it's not a huge ask if you don't consider other people's time valuable. She had plenty of time off and nights to herself and BIL when my MIL stepped in on an almost weekly basis to take the girls for sleepovers.[/quote] Did you ever ask your MIL for help and get turned down? [/quote] Many times and we had to stop asking. MIL could not help with my son because she watched SIL's girls fulltime 8-5 and was burnt out on the weekends. She did not have the capacity to watch 3 kids at a time. MIL would help well into the evening with SIL with cooking/cleaning after her new baby. No one came to help me after I had my son (my own mom passed away and my Dad is disabled). But they sure as sh*t expected to be served tea/coffee and be welcomed with open arms to come "visit" unannounced when I was a new Mom and sit on the couch with a drink in hand and not lift a finger. So yes, there is alooootttt of resentment there from my end (DH too, but he sees it in the monetary sense that BIL/SIL were able to save $40-50+K/year with zero childcare costs and believes they should have plenty of money now to pay for a sitter).[/quote]
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