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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Launching your kids to be successful adults is the whole point of parenting. Some of the best advice I got at my wedding shower was to invest in my marriage because kids will leave and you’ll still be married.

Having kids taught me that I will never love my parents as much as they love me. My own kids won’t love me as much as I love them either - and it would not be healthy if they did. I hope they find a partner to love as much as I love my husband and if they choose to have kids, I hope they love their kids as much as I love them.  That’s the circle of life. [/quote]

My son loves me as much as I love him.  [/quote]

You simply cannot know that, and it is unquestionably true that his love for you is very different than yours for him.

You sound really needy, btw. I hope for your son’s sake you didn’t do the whole emotional incest thing that too many needy mommies do with their sons.[/quote]

He really does.  He’s an only. Maybe that’s why.  Either way, I’m very lucky.  [/quote]

I wrote the first post in this chain and I’m an only child. I am close to my parents. They live nearby. They have a great relationship with my spouse and my children. We also have healthy boundaries and mutual respect. I stand by the fact that no child loves their parents as wholly and unconditionally as a parent loves their child.

My parents will do anything for me and by extension my children, their grandchildren. I care about them and I go out of my way to be thoughtful and helpful - but I put my own children’s physical and emotional needs before my parents’ preferences. I will inconvenience myself or sacrifice for my kids in ways I will not for my parents. The nature of my love for my parents, my spouse, and mg children are all different - as they should be.

I’m sure your son loves you - but I hope you are secure enough that you can make space for him to have his own family and to put his spouse and children first. [/quote]

+10000. The person who claims her son loves her as much as she loves him really needs to get a life. "I'm very lucky" Ahuh. I'm sure he feels smothered.[/quote]

I have a life, with a son who adores his Father and I.  He takes a trip with his Dad every fall.  He calls and texts me almost every day.  He has a wonderful girlfriend and we have no opinions and zero involvement in his relationship.  We will never interfere with his life, we are here when he wants us.  No pressure and no obligations.  I am an only and have a similar relationship with my Dad.  Family relationships have to be tended to and cherished.  They take effort like everything else worth having.  We have had great sadness in our lives, maybe that’s why we all put such attention into our relationship.  [/quote]

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