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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like this has been posted before, but can’t find the threads and am looking for perspective. I have two young children, and always wanted three kids. My husband and I work full time (and we have a nanny for childcare) and I still find myself completely overwhelmed balancing my kids, my family, my job, our house, and the entire mental load that goes with all of it. I don’t know how I will manage a third child, but feel like a failure when I see larger families and wonder if I should just go for it. My husband is fine stopping at two. To complicate things, I have remaining PGT tested embryos and know they’re there.

I do not want to have a large age gap if I can avoid it. We are also in our mid thirties and I don’t want to put off a decision forever. We are UMC, so we can technically afford a third child, but it will definitely be a felt expense.

I can’t be the only one conflicted like this. Looking for advice, thoughts, people who’ve been there are decided for or against it, etc. [/quote]

Enjoy what you've, smaller family IS the way to go. World is overpopulated and underfunded, have less kids so you don't have to overstretch your physical, emotional and financial resources thin.[/quote]

Disagree that we’re overpopulated and underfunded.

Birth rates have plummeted globally and significant parts of the world are now well below replacement level. Global population is on track to peak and start declining in the next couple generations.

We’re also not underfunded. Never have humans been healthier, more educated, more literate, more comfortable than they are right now. On virtually every metric of well being, we’re doing way better than in the past.

That said, no need to pressure yourself to have more kids. Once people no longer needed kids to work the fields and provide income, once people had a choice (thanks, reliable birth control!), we began choosing fewer kids across the board. There is nothing wrong with that decision.

I don’t work FT, neither does DH, we have plenty of leisure and aren’t that busy, and we chose to stop at 3. It’s STILL a lot of work. [/quote]

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