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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spanking. [/quote]

+1. Spanking is not always abusive, but most DCUM people will automatically say all hitting is wrong.[/quote]

I think spanking is always abusive. I believe you should parent your child as you wish them to behave in the world. Under what circumstances do you think it is appropriate for them to deal with a problem by hitting someone? Spanking advocates want to create this weird exception to the general rule that you should not hit other people where it's okay but only if you are an adult and the other person is a child 100% within your care and control. It's so weird. If you hit your kid, for any reason and under any circumstances, you are teaching them that hitting is an appropriate consequence for bad behavior.[/quote]

I have a kid with special needs that includes not seeing hierarchy. It's problematic.  You are pretending that hierarchy isn't real which is silly.  And doesn't do your children any favors.  They are not small adults, they are children.[/quote]

So your logic is that because you have power over them, it's okay to hit them as punishment.

If they were small adults, they would not be below you in the hierarchy, and therefore even if they behaved the exact same way, you would not hit them because adults have more agency than children do.

So you believe it's okay to hit someone as long as they are below you in the hierarchy. What is the point of hitting them then? To punish a specific behavior, or to show them who's boss?[/quote]

It's not spanking.  It's everything.  A parent teaches a child, through instruction and correction, using reason, praise, bribery, consequences; a colleague does not correct a colleague's table manners or decisions, impose a curfew, require chores.  Etc.  [/quote]

This specific conversation is about spanking. I don't know what you are going on about.

Spanking is abuse.[/quote]

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