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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom is amazing she never once - not once talked about how great a cook she is, or even suggested how to make something, or even commented at all about anyone's food. Friends and family and acquaintances rave about my mom's food, and always have. She has always been humble about her talents.

MIL goes on about the quantity of food being served - how something is "too much!", "enough for an army!", "I could never eat all of this!!" "I certainly don't have room in my (empty) fridge for this!!" or (mysteriously) "just the right amount!" every single time - like a strange ritual. It would make a great drinking game!

Point being, some people have strange hang ups about food. Try to be gracious, OP. [/quote]

OMG, I could have written this!

My MIL would always say things like "you shouldn't have gone to all this trouble" when I'd make the same thing our family would normally eat, just more of it. Or when I'd ask what salad dressing people wanted, for example, she would say "oh, I don't want to be high maintenance, don't make such a thing of it, whatever is fine" but I had given her three options and wanted to know which one to bring to the table. Or if we were bringing drinks down to the beach and I'd ask what she'd want "oh, any old thing" so now I have to decide what to bring you instead of you just telling me which choice you wanted. [/quote]

PP here.  Agree!  Why all the MIL theatrics about food?! Like clock work.  I guess I am spoiled, because my mom makes everything look easy. No need to comment on the amount of food every. freaking. time. Eat it or don't, I really don't care. No one is taking notes or commending you for eating less - there will be no parade for the one who ate the least. If you notice how much people eat (MIL I am talking to you), maybe you should get professional help about your food hang ups.

This kind of bizarre behavior is about control, not about the food. To my mom, food is part of the celebration, and not one person notices how much or who is taking what. The more the merrier, in every regard.  Good cooks tend to know they are good cooks, and take pride in their creations - but I have never once heard a good cook go on about their food, one way or the other.

My friend told me a funny story about when she was pregnant and went on a beach holiday with her food challenged ILs. Apparently, the friend literally had no food, because they family ate it like vultures. Now, friend (who is no longer pregnant), is sure to eat as much as she wants when she is with them, because she knows how petty they are.  She is damned if she does and damned if she doesn't, so she just keeps eating. She's not even a big person, but her ILs have such big food hang ups, that friend and her DH make a game of it. [/quote]

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