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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been sleeping with married men since i was 18. Im single, so I'm not the one cheating. I am always the one who ends it. [/quote]

Have you been psychologically evaluated?  Do you plan to keep doing this when old and shriveled?  Who hurt you that this is what you like doing?  Obviously raised in a house with zero morals or compassion/empathy.[/quote]

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I find responses like these to be pretty over the top. So many people on this forum can only see in black and white when it comes to cheating, as in, cheaters and their APs have zero morals and zero empathy. Reality, though, is more complex.

I had a friend in college who lost both her parents by high school. So in a real sense she was an adrift in life for awhile. She had several flings with married men in those years. Before you call her a derogatory name and say she has zero morals, you should also know that she served in the military, rehabilitates injured animals, volunteers at homeless shelters, advocates for the ethical treatment of minors in the system, as a start. She’s a deep and complex person, and a deeply caring friend with a profoundly intellectual mind. She was involved in some flings that very well may have caused some pain. But to say she has no empathy couldn’t be further from the truth.

I know it’s hard to hear that there’s so many shades of gray in these scenarios. It’s easier to think that the woman, or man for that matter, is a moral deprived jerk. But again, life is complex and it would serve us all to remember that none of us are perfect and all of us still add a great deal of value in this world and to the lives of others. [/quote]

Wah, waahhh, wah.  Many people have gone through lots of trauma and still don’t bang married men.  Oh yes “some flings that well have causes some pain”.  And it’s even plural for gods sakes.

No a lot of narcissists put out phony blogs about their charitable work and it’s all part of the narc bag…all designed for that external validation.  Just like the mom bloggers that act like such loving wives and great mothers that are out banging multiple married men behind their husband’s backs.  Real salt if the earth people because, hey, they did a fun run for autism speaks. [/quote]

Huh? She doesn’t blog. She doesn’t do anything charity related. I mean her actual life’s work and paycheck come from child welfare advocacy work. None of this ends up on social media to be clear.

Anyway you just proved my point. I never said her relationship with those men didn’t cause pain. Affairs most certainly cause pain. But you can’t just place every singe person in this box or that based on who they sleep with. In the grand scheme of things this woman has done a whole hell of a lot helping others and making a positive impact on people in need, and having sex with a married man doesn’t erase that, period. [/quote]

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