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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Less than a generation ago adults could still be adults

Reject the parenting arms race and take your life back[/quote]

But this thread is just engaging in a different kind of arms race. Instead of being the perfect mom, it’s being the perfect person— perfectly balancing parenting with a fulfilling career, active social life, hobbies, and personal fulfillment. It’s the same BS as always, where we set the bar insanely high for women and then keep changing the rules in them.
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Such an overreaction to what people are saying, which is that you can’t lose your identity as a woman and individual when you are a parent,and that it’s valuable to maintain your own interests and relationships.  You don’t need to be a martyr to be a mother.[/quote]

+1. Also, "throughout much of history women were enslaved to their kids/home" is just not accurate. Pre-birth control, women had lots of children so not a lot of individual attention, and the households required kids to do chores or older kids to take care of younger kids. And if you've watched Mad Men, you know how attentive typical 1950s moms were (yes, Betty Draper is richer than the average 1950s housewife, but my middle-class grandma also let her kids sit in playpens all day while she played bridge with the neighbor ladies).[/quote]

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