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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ooops I meant what are examples of the preferred tasks?[/quote]

I love the core aspects of my job and can hyperfocus on those tasks. I’m a workaholic for my primary job and do very well. Same for school. Very high academic achiever.

It can take me weeks/months to complete “boring”/uninteresting tasks. 
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So external factors things like school and work get prioritized.

Meanwhile homelife and house and general schedule (not managed by secretary or spouse or mother) in shambles. [/quote]

Wait, what?  I don’t see any indication that anyone’s home life is in shambles.  
I have ADD.  I can give you more examples of my preferred activities:
- playing imagination games with kids, making up rules and stories
- cooking/baking, particularly if it’s something I haven’t made before.  Love it when the kids help, even if they make a mess.
- long family dinners where we laugh and joke a lot
- swimming, hiking, sailing
- working out in the garden (particularly this time of year)
- dancing to loud music and acting silly
- reading (to myself or out loud)
- math, puzzles, puzzle games
- and, of course, working in my chosen profession and teaching adult learners about my work

Things I am not good at:
- filling out forms
- getting places exactly on time
- leaving places exactly on time (basically any transition…I always marvel at people who just get into their car and drive away.  I always feel like I have shot that I need to do and adjust before I go)
- getting up in the morning
- decorating the house
- throwing parties/entertaining 
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Is this list a joke? The first "activities" are all fun hobbies and a good way to spend any day the second is a list of regular adult responsibilities. lol lol. SMH.

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That’s ridiculous.  Both lists are regular adult responsibilities.  
Filling out forms isn’t more of an adult responsibility than making and sharing meals with your family.  
Decorating your house isn’t more adult than making a garden.  
Getting kids to and from school exactly on time isn’t more adult than working and providing for your family.  
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Didn’t someone way above make the claim that when outsiders are involved — teachers, colleagues, friends, extended family— that the ADHD takes more care and focus to do something well. But when it’s insiders like one’s spouse or own kids, they do it way less. Like someone else will take care of it or I’m busy or tired or whatever.

Almost sounds like masking and ASD. [/quote]

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