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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I say this as a woman who breastfed (for a while): If you do exclusive breastfeeding you are setting yourself up for a "Mom does everything" dynamic from the get-go.[/quote]
.I think this is a cop out. What should happen when mom EBFs is that Dad should do everything related to the house and caring for mom. 
The whole point of this is that it isn't ever going to be 50/50 no relationship is exactly 50/50 but that men step up and do things without being tasked or asked. So for example if you're exclusively breastfeeding and you're nursing in that moment and you're in the first three to four weeks after birth and all those other things who else is going to vacuum and do the laundry and clean and go grocery shopping and prep the food? For most men this magically happens either by family coming out to help or Mom doing it in between nursing. 
The fact that exclusive breastfeeding is used as a reasoning for why Dad's or this way or that it reinforces is because you're just adding one more thing to your plate that you already manage. I don't think exclusive breastfeeding changes the dynamic as much as it's being used as a scapegoat. 
I find it interesting at the very people who are like well I wanted my DH to participate in feeds yeah he's sitting there watching TV or scrolling his phone while doing the formula feeds. well you do all the house stuff that you probably in the back of your mind always do but once you have kids you really don't have time to do all those things. And it becomes that much more evident that your housework load is not equitable. 
Exclusive breastfeeding doesn't mean that mom takes care of baby exclusively. There is still tummy time and walks and naps and diaper changes. I'm not sure how being able to feed it from a bottle of her place is all of that and magically makes dad more invested in the other things with childcare in the house. [/quote]

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