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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a real question and I don't want an answer. But I am a socially awkward guy who is successful. By no means do I think I'm perfect, but I would love to come in from work one day and hear that I did something well. Does that ever happen to men?

I come home and try to spend time with her but she always tells me she doesn't want to hear about our direct care about my interests whether that be books or TV shows or games, parenting whatever. No-go.

Instead, she'll point out things I do wrong that I guess embarrass her and focus on that, telling me how to improve. But then I improve and [b]create another dependency [/b]and the cycle repeats.

It's frustrating because I feel like she married this nerdy dude and she knew he was nerdy. Now she's trying to change me for social acceptance, and meanwhile nerdy me feels isolated. [/quote]

What does this mean?  [/quote]

She says "you bring your Rubik's cube too often to parties"
I'll get a notebook and bring it to the party. I'm social but at dull moments I'll write in it, just thoughts, maybe a question, maybe song lyrics
So later I'll see her and she criticizes the notepad. 
Fast forward and I have something else. But these fidget things help with social anxiety and she seems to be against them. Maybe more some than others, but why does she get to be the social police for me. [/quote]

Wow, if this is real, you probably need therapy and medication.  I also have terrible social anxiety but this is extreme.  A good therapist can teach you techniques to cope that won't be so off putting for everyone else.  I also really dislike when people claim to be "nerdy" but really they are just socially awkward and want an excuse do obnoxious things like bring fidget spinners to parties.[/quote]

My dh is like this.  Sometimes I am embarrassed by him.  Sometimes I feel the need to let him know that his behavior is off putting or giving off a vibe he doesn’t intend.  But for the most part I admire that he is not affected by peer pressure and goes his own way.  Well, op, all I can say is you should stand up for yourself and remind her that you are non-conformist and that’s what makes you great in your field and allows you to bring home s big salary she gets to enjoy.  Then just let it go.  Also find a hobby group or friends who are interested in hearing about the things you like.  My spouse and I don’t depend on eachother for that you need to broaden your support base. Good luck.  [/quote]

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