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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]let's teach our boys to be more OBSERVANT of their partner's sacrifices, needs, and wants. It seems that a lot of these issues arise because women are so sensitively attuned to the needs of their children and the wants of their spouses, that women are making sacrifices that their husbands simply don't see, were never trained to see, were never taught as a valuable skill to take notice.[/quote]

I don’t think that it’s such a gendered thing.  There are plenty of men out there who make sacrifices that their wives don’t see.  I don’t think that OP is one of those wives, but I do think the people here saying that OP doesn’t seem to recognize that her husband is working are coming from that perspective.

What I think needs to happen is that if you are the type of person who is a people pleaser or was raised to be a people pleaser, then you need to figure out how to 1). Complain about stuff more 2) Learn to accept help, or at least a compliment, when it’s offered.  
If you never complain about how hard it is to take care of the kids, or how hard it is to get off work early so you can help out your wife at home, and you blow it off when your spouse offers compliments about it, then you are part of the problem, and you are making your spouse into kind of a jerk.  [/quote]

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