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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We usually talk the day out in the morning. So my DH would have known that I needed to get my thing done. I would have grabbed my things and said “see you in a couple of hours” and left. Or said something like “what are you two doing this afternoon? I need to get working on my project.”[/quote]

He would not have known unless you told him and made specific plans known to him.

You may have told him you had some work to get done, but you clearly did NOT plan in advance, or tell him, that you would need him to take the kid to the park from lets say 10-2.

"I need to get working on my project" is not "I need you to take the kid to the park between 10-2 or I need to leave the house to get the project done."

So you did NOT tell him in advance about what you wanted HIM to do.  And therefore deprived him of the opportunity to integrate an activity with the kid outside the home at a set time with whatever else he wanted to do that day.  Maybe he would have skipped the gym to play with the kid in the park for a few hours but after his workout is too tired.

Admit that you yourself did not realize you needed several hours of quiet time until the last minute.  Thats why you did not mention that need in the morning planning discussion.

YOUR OWN POOR TIME MANAGEMENT SKILLS AND DISORGANIZATION AND FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS IN A TIMELY AND CLEAR MANNER IS YOUR FAULT, NOT YOUR HUSBAND'S.

You claim to be running a business?  THEN RUN A BUSINESS, AND STOP HALF ASSING IT AND THEN TRYING TO BLAME YOUR HUSBAND.

You need a block of alone time to work on the weekend?  THEN SCHEDULE IT WELL IN ADVANCE AND MAKE SURE YOUR HUSBAND IS AVAILABLE TO COVER CHILD CARE WELL IN ADVANCE.  If not be prepared to hire a baby sitter.

JFC what business are you in?  The chaos business?[/quote]

So he gets all of Saturday off from childcare unless he specifically agrees otherwise? Come on. It's his child too.[/quote]

OP finally admitted that her husband did ask if it has ok for him to go to the gym.  She said fine.  Instead of working on her work project, she puttered around the house.    Instead of telling him to take the kid so she could have quiet time to do the project, she wasted her entire morning and most of the afternoon, then asks him to take the kid to the park, but only of he wants to.

Why did OP post?[/quote]

She couldn’t work on the project while he was at the gym because she was caring for her child. Are you dim?[/quote]

No, you are.  If she couldnt work on the project if he went ti the gym, she shoukd have told him not to go there when he asked her about it that morning.[/quote]

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