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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lazy Saturday at home. This morning, DH went to the gym and I stayed home with DC. I made breakfast, cleaned the kitchen, put away laundry, and cleaned the shower (while also taking a shower). Also helped DC with a craft project and facilitated dance music and got snacks. That's all fine -- zero resentment.

DH was gone about 2 hours (about 90 minutes at gym plus getting there and back). When he got home, he took a shower, relaxed for a while (scrolling Twitter and doing some Duo Lingo while lying on the bed), and then made himself lunch. I made DC and myself lunch.

Then DH decided he wanted to watch some This Old House, so he watched a couple episodes on his computer while DC and I hung out and played/listened to music.

Around 2, I suggested DH take DC to the park. I have had a nice day, but was feeling like I needed a break. I also have a small work project I need to finish over the weekend, which DH knows about. So I said "Hey, maybe you two would like to go to the park, maybe take DC's bike and work on riding? I have some work to finish so I could use some peace and quiet in the house."

Was it rude for me to volunteer DH to take DC out? Should I have approached that in another way? He is acting very put-upon about it. They didn't have to go to the park -- it was just a suggestion. I also would have left to go work at the coffee shop nearby, but it seemed like DC needed to get outside anyway.[/quote]

Brutal honesty here.  No offense intended.  You sound controlling (I'm a male) and already I can tell you're husband is likely (internally) screaming and he likely dreads being around you.  
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Of course.  OP is mentally ill.  She admits that mental illness is a commin issue in her family.  She is disorganized and unable to plan and schedule properly.  When she procrastinates getting her work done, that must be her husband's fault.

She is extremely passive aggressive.  When her husband asked her if he should stay home and help around the house rather than go to the gym, she told him she was fine if he went.  She dawdled around all day and then chased him and her child angrily out of the house because she was in a panick to get her work done.

She claims everything was fine when he returned yet still came to the internet for validation from other disturbed women to demonize her husband as a lazy good for nothing.

When she receives any input that is critical of her, she lashes out in an openly abusive manner.

So just imagine what her poor husband must be going through.[/quote]

But it really was fine that he went to the gym. She just wanted some time afterwards, and for him to spend time with his child. What's wrong with that?[/quote]

No, he was aware she had a project to do as well as household chores. and childcare.  He asked her if he should go to the gym she said Fine indicating she could handle all those responsibilities and he could use the day to relax after his own strenuous work week.

She did not get everyhing done and did not even start her work project until  2 pm. Only then did she realize it would be more work than she had thought.  She chased her husband and child out of the house in a huff to finish her project.  Really?  She thinks she has the right to kick her husband and child out of their house for her convenience?  With husband having no say in the matter?

If she wanted to take the kid to the park she could have gotten her project done that morning.   Her husband specifically asked if he should stay home or go to the gym and she told him to go.

And lord only knows how many hours she spent on social media vs. actually working.[/quote]

WTH? No. He asked if he could go to the gym, not if he could have an entire day free of all responsibilities. If he wanted a whole day, he should have siad so. Why on earth would you think that going to the gym means you do nothing else for the rest of the day? You are bizarre.

Ohhhh, his strenuous work week, poor little manlie-man.  So tired, too tired to watch his own child at the park.[/quote]

Good odds that it's not.

His own child, that is.[/quote]

Off his meds, don’t engage.[/quote]

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