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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]50/50 has been an absolute godsend for a couple of women of my acquaintance who finally have the time to pursue career, meaningful and healthy relationships,  and their own health and well being.

Unfortunately the instances where a father fights for 50/50 to lower child support and then constantly flakes should be dealt with more harshly by the courts and penalized per diem in child support payments. [/quote]

Your constant Dad bashing is pathetic.  Many moms fight for full custody to get maximum child support and then don't spend it on the kids.  It goes both ways.  Its pathetic that the courts have zero accountability for child support and keep Dad's out of kids' lives as the other parent often manipulates the kids and situation for their best interests.[/quote]

It’s not Dad bashing. I have nothing but respect for the men who seek 50/50 and actually take 50% without excuses or constant flakiness.

The ones that realize their weekend includes Super Bowl Sunday and expect to be able to either switch or drop the kids back with mom by 2pm tomorrow? Nothing but contempt. [/quote]

Yes you are. Same post every time.  [/quote]

Do you think there should be consequences for men who don’t take their 50% if that’s what they sought in court?[/quote]

Yes, there are consequences, they lose custody.  However, there are no consequences if the Mom's don't spend the child support on the kids.[/quote]
If she’s buying food and clothes and providing a place to sleep, she’s spending child support on the kids. Or are you claiming it’s common for people to starve their kids, not give the clothes, and make them sleep outside?[/quote]

Or, what if her boyfriend pays the rent and the kids are going without clothes and they are on food stamps....[/quote]

Going without clothes meaning the kids are barefoot and naked or meaning in your omniscience you don’t think their clothes justify the child support? Even if someone else pays rent, internet, heat and electricity aren’t free. Food stamp and other benefit adjudications take child support into account so obviously she’s not getting very much if she still qualifies.[/quote]

Again, if they aren't paying the rent and utilities that should not be taken into child support calculations as you are saying that is what child support is for.  The kids often went without proper clothing and shoes too small.  [b]And, no, food stamps and other benefits did not take into consideration the child support as if they did she wouldn't have qualified.  More than likely she lied about the child support [/b]as no way she'd get food stamps and medical otherwise, especially dad had the kids on full medical coverage.

Surprise, some Mom's lie and don't use the money appropriately.[/quote]

So, I call troll here-they absolutely check this when a parent applies for aid. Child support orders are court records. If this Mom 'lied' it must have been decades ago before computers were in wide use. Also, one can easily report suspected food stamp fraud. In fact, it's as easy as posting on DCUM  :roll:

I really think there is one, or a few, posters in this thread whose last interactions with the family court system was in 1985 or so.[/quote]

If the dad had the information that she lied to receive benefits, he would have reported it.

And to be clear, a mother of two in Maryland only qualifies for food stamps if her total income is less than $30,000 annually. So if some dad is paying so little in child support that her income is under $30,000 it’s entirely possible she would struggle to get shoes for her kids. [/quote]

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