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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our friends did that until they got divorced. Now dad is getting them into activities. My son was their kid's only close friend. Mom would lament to me that her DD didn't have any female friends. When I suggested she try out a place that has a wide variety of classes (dance, ninja, gymnastics, theater, art), she reacted in near disgust. "Ugh, that's too much time. We want to spend weekends as a family."

It was a strange controlling dynamic in that family - mom seemed disapproving of most other families because they didn't parent exactly the same as her. Yet she wished her kids had more friends. Well... [/quote]

I always heard that line as an underscheduled kid "Weekends are family time." We spent every weekend taking day trips to quaint little towns, antique shopping, on our boat in the middle of the lake...and I was bored to death!!! My parents were in 30-something heaven and I just sat there reading my comic books and wishing I was in an activity with other kids.
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My parents dragged us to their stuff and pretended it was for us.  It was never for or about us as they never considered what we'd enjoy doing.  Then, they wondered why I pulled away and preferred being with my grandparents vs. them.  My grandma would teach me how to sew and just spend real time with me.  I wish my parents allowed me to do something I was interested in, just once.  I don't event think I realized how much it sucked till the one time as an adult my parents got my husband and me to take a trip with them and they did the same thing - they wandered around, fast mode never really stopping to enjoy it or going inside places that might interest us.  When my husband said something, it made me realize how my world was always just about them and not me.  Never again would I travel with them.

I would have loved to do a sport that I choose or art.[/quote]

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