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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is so absurd.  Are a bunch of girls (kids?) identifying as LGBT when they're just cishet girls?  Who knows.  If they are, it really doesn't matter because they'll figure out who and what they are.  It's much easier to be straight, even today.  It shouldn't matter if you're cis or trans, gay or straight.  You should be treated the same but that just isn't the case.

The queer kids tend to gravitate together.  If your kid's friend group is all gay/lesbian/trans, there's a good chance that your kid might actually be gay.  Despite the claims that they're all faking it, there are still gay kids out there.  And yours might be one of them.  That's perfectly find and normal.  I agree with the other poster that was saying that the implication here is that there's a problem if your kid identifies as queer.  There is no problem there.  Some kids are gay.  Maybe your kid.  If you're scared they're gay or transgender then you need to look into yourself and think about why it's scary for that to be the case.  It's homophobia or transphobia.  [/quote]

I don’t think there’s a problem. I don’t care if my daughter is gay or not. I do find the upward trending percentages very interesting, though, from a societal and cultural standpoint. There are a lot of factors interwoven here and I’ve had a front row seat observing my teen daughter and her friend group, who she’s had since elementary school. That’s all.[/quote]

The number of closeted older queer people is a lot higher than I think most people want to acknowledge or realize.  There are a lot of LGBT people that have sex on the DL or transition when they're older.  This is because it was so hard to be queer when they were younger and internalized a lot of homophobia.  It takes time for people to work through the hate that they were taught and to accept that it's okay to be gay and that it's not shameful to be gay.  This is the case with a lot more people than you might realize.  I'm out of the closet.  I know people like this.  I encourage them to live their best lives but it takes time to work through the bigotry we were taught.  It's like chipping a penny out of a concrete side walk with a screwdriver.

If a kid is straight and identifying as queer, they will still be straight on the inside and will eventually realize it when they're attracted to the opposite sex.  They're going to date and eventually form lasting relationships the people they're attracted to.  Unless of course they have parents that tell them that it's all a trend and that they're faking it to be popular.  Then they may very well internalize the homophobia and try to live as a straight person for decades before finally coming out as gay.  Let's not pretend that the people in this thread all have straight kids that are pretending to be gay.  Some or all of them are actually gay and telling them that they're making it up is causing your kid trauma.  If they make a mistake, so what?  A lot of people experiment and realize it wasn't for them.  I know cishet guys that wanted to experiment in college and after the first time were like, yep I'm definitely straight.  So what?[/quote]

Are you dismissing kids in your experience as an adult gay person or as a parent?[/quote]

I don't follow.  This entire thread is about straight people claiming that gay kids don't exist.  then you post that.[/quote]

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