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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think I'll have any and I have 4 adult children. I imagine I'll need to grieve over the fact. It's not my kids' jobs to have children for me to enjoy. 
And it's no one's business why they're not having any. 
However, I thought my life would look a little different. We still have a big life that we enjoy. But, I thought it would include grandchildren.
Anyone else? [/quote]

This is us, as well. And, while we also agree that this was not our kid's duty to provide  grandchildren,  totally agree, it changed everything about how we live, how we envisioned our lives at this point of our lives ( we loved having a family and were so looking forward to grandchildren and even great grandchildren).  The knowledge that there will be no one living past our kids is also kind of sad. I come  from a long history of immigrated refugees in the last century- fascinating stories, and it ends here. But that's part of the story, too, I guess .

The irony is that we would have been great at this. We are far more comfortable financially than we were years ago, and we would have been able to help out in all ways, even probably help with college$$. We would have loved that when our kids were young! We would be at  recitals and games,  trips,  babysitting, vacations,  everything.

We aren't the country club  set, we aren't  going between golf sets and tennis games. Our friends are active grandparents, our cousins  are all involved with their families , and while we are busy (!) - we volunteer,  we have plenty to do,  but we wish there was the large family with kids and cousins and big family . It is heartbreaking, I will admit.  I just decided  that we have to accept it and reorganize.  Sigh. I hear you, OP. 
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thank you and I'm so sorry!
The ironic part is us too. 
Although [b]we have a very big life[/b], it could be that grandchildren won't be a part of it. [/quote]

You keep saying this. What do you mean?[/quote]

we travel a lot, are very active, busy with jobs and go between three houses. [/quote]

So you are like most people.[/quote]

Not most midwesterners.[/quote]

The most baby crazy people I have met are from places like Iowa. What is it about the Midwest that makes people there so obsessed with having babies?[/quote]

OP here - I guess everyone but my kids. [/quote]

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