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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has a similar family dynamic. He is from a well off family. He is a teacher and the only sibling that works. His older brother is kind of a stay at home dad. He has a Ph.D. in an obscure subject and his wife is an attorney. He teaches one class at a community college. His kids are school aged and go to before and after care, paid by the in-laws. The in-laws bought them a house in Texas when SIL was in law school and BIL was in grad school. They bought them a house in VA when they moved back to the DMV even though SIL already owned a three bedroom condo. They bought them a nice van and SUV and pay for all my niece and nephews' summer camps and private school tuition. BIL is home all day, not teaching any classes. My grandmother in law pays for a house cleaner, yard service and laundry service plus meal delivery service.

SIL is also a "SAHP". I say this in quotes because her kids are in high school. She got married the day after graduation. She and her husband lived in Europe for years. In-laws bought them a house in PA and a flat in London. When SiL was in London, in-laws paid for a full-time nanny, a full-time housekeper and a full-time driver.

DH has always been independent. Each year, he gets a big check from his grandmother, but his siblings don't. It's because their grandmother paid for their cars, furniture, student loans and DH had a track scholarship and didn't have any debt and bought his own car. DH shakes it off. He is the middle child and thinks his siblings are entitled. His parents are starting to deteroriate health-wise so this has been eye opening for his siblings. Their siblings have spouses with good well paying jobs.

Short story to my long post: I'd stay out of it. It's your in-laws money and they can do with it what they want.
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That check from grandma is probably huge, otherwise you would DEFINITELY not be "staying out of it."  Ha![/quote]

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