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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of this came up in the other thread about why people want victims to just "get over it" and not cause awkwardness. OP what do you do for other people and their families? As someone asked whether you are "intense", think hard about that. In the best colleges you get really two sorts of people. You get most who have done great in high school and are cool people and come from excellent families and have built excellent records and know how to socialize and they go to their highly selective institution, find their people and fit in brilliantly. They do so because they know what it means to be successful, they know how to talk to people and how to be low-key and relaxed and not make things weird or awkward.

Then you get the strivers. The dishwasher's kid on Pell grants, the scholarship kid from the inner city, the farm kid from the sticks who has never distinguished between a dinner and salad fork in his life. If you're hot or a good athlete you'll be OK, people from the first group will take you under their wing and let your looks or sports skills carry you while you figure out how to behave.

But if not, if you're just intense and determined and a striver and all that, you're just going to turn people off. You won't know that you're being judged in every class session, cafeteria meal and trip to the library. You won't know that your JC Penney jeans and your parents flannel shirts pegged you as a loser the moment you walked onto campus. You won't realize that no, your whole family doesn't need to bring you to your first day in college. You won't realize that no, you don't go standing up for someone just because they've been "mistreated" or "bullied" because that can boomerang onto YOU. You're too intense, you don't act like you've been there, you think every stupid conversation or moral choice matters.

So who are you? Are you the person who would make a scene, push some cause just because it's "right"? Why do you want to make people think you're somehow better than them? Why do you think it matters? Just chill already and smoke a joint or have a drink. Be fun. Don't tell us about children in Africa. Thanks.[/quote]

What an odd post. [/quote]

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