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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious how the first rounds went for girls! They got their first cuts this morning i think. My DD is in a sorority doing rush for the first time and she could not believe the arrogance of some of the PNMs coming through. One girl literally refused to give her name and said "i don't need to be here" when my DD tried to talk to her.  Some of you parents have not done a good job raising your kids![/quote]

It didn’t go well for my DD (definitely not one of the arrogant kids your DD encountered). After talking to her, I think some of her responses to questions weren’t ideal. She is considering trying to rush informally after bid day. I didn’t rush so I have no clue how all of this works. [/quote]

I am sorry to hear it did not go well, however I'd encourage her to stick out the process a little longer. She can always drop out at the last minute. There are too many stories of COB not working out, that I would be a bit concerned about that. My DD got dropped by all but 4 houses after the first round last year. Four. Was absolutely heartbroken and shocked. Was a very tough day and several of her friends had the same experience, some of them dropped altogether, one did do COB but not to a house that she didn't have on her initial call backlist. Thankfully the house that my DD genuinely had the best conversations with was still on the list and that is where she went. She knew nothing about this sorority, it flies under the radar a bit but she absolutely LOVES it and is loving it more and more even as she goes through rush and gets to know more of the sisters. There are 150+ girls in this house so it may take a while to find the right people, but they are there.

My DD has been passionately telling her story to the PNMs coming through, that she didn't know anything about her sorority and just went based on what was "popular" or what her friends wanted, but ultimately ended up in the right and best place for her.[/quote]

These stories make me sad. I was in a sorority elsewhere and had a good experience but it was more low key as I recall. I don't think I got dropped but honestly I can not recall the whole process. I am starting to hope my daughter does not end up at a school with a large greek system. I would hate for her to be feeling this way above. Going to college is enough of a transition and I think this sounds like it could really ruin their experience. [/quote]

Im the PP who posted this, honestly it was a couple days of sadness, and everyone will experience that, but then ultimately by the end of the week, she ended up in the right place with 50+ other new pledges. So was the few days of sadness worth it, yes. She should have gone in more open minded, which is what she's trying to say to PNMs right now. The ones that are most sad are those who expected to be in the choosing position after first round, but ultimately they are not. The computers choose. Of the 15 sororities at UVA, only one of them is probably not worth joining and may be on the outs soon.  [/quote]

If the right place is the house that takes everyone the other houses don't want, it's both obvious to everyone involved and a huge blow those those girls' self esteem. Everyone talking about the right house seems like they actually landed in a house that wanted them and that they wanted, and that's great, but there are also houses that these girls don't want and who are happy to take anyone who will pay dues.  [/quote]

There is only one of 15 houses at UVA that I would say is described this way. I believe they had 8 pledges last year while the other houses had over 50. So that means there are 14 sororities that these girls should be giving a fair chance.  All I'm saying is that they should keep going, meet more people and then decide.  Eliminating a sorority because it's not as popular as another is short sighted. At least get to know the girls before you decide it's not for you. My DD had one of her list that she liked, but others that she did not. She still went through the process but decided that if she didn't get a bid to the house she liked, she didn't see herself in the second choice so she would not accept that bid. Ultimately it worked out fine, but sure, there are houses that may not feel like the right fit, and that's completely fair, but if you are judging the sorority on one or two conversations, that is not fair to anyone.[/quote]

Read PP's post about her daughter withdrawing after receiving no invitations to philanthropy day. Sometimes I think these "you'll land somewhere great because I did" posts are from women who wanted tri delta and got DG instead rather than women like PP's daughter. [/quote]

She got invitations. But not from the houses she wanted. [/quote]

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