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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Educated women marrying blue-collar men can work out. Noted feminist Germaine Greer married a truck driver. Naomi Wolf married her body guard.[/quote]

And if you are rich enough to hire unlimited help, that’s great. But certainly you don’t think many women would sign on to be primary breadwinner, primary parent, run the house, etc. your blue collar man going to raising the kids and have dinner on the table at 6 and accept a partner prioritizing work.

My good friend is a managing partner of a law firm. Married her HS sweetheart who had a GED and worked construction. It worked when he was 25 and doing manual labor while she was in law school and studied 24/7.   But then she outearned him by multiples and it made no sense for him to work.  And it went south in the ugliest way possible. He took care of the kids and house and resented the 70 hour weeks. He was angry and resentful.  He became paranoid that she was having an affair (she was not) and obsessed with the idea that she would leave him because she could “do better”. There was drug abuse.  There was serious domestic violence (she was hospitalized twice, (once after her 8 year old snuck away and called 911 because she was unconscious).  There was marital raped.  She left him 3 times over 2 years before it stuck. He’s a home less druggies living in a tent. He has no right to see his kids (that’s how ugly it was). She’s rebuilding her life, but went through hell.

There are women who have been conditioned to accept responsibility for the home and kids in exchange for economic support, which the husband often controls. There may be a Swedish princess who can have this fairy tale. But in American society, not a lot of men who will take on the second shift labor and be okay with managing the household after being given an allowance. We aren’t raised with those societal roles. 
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And how wonderful that she had the economic resources she could walk away from that. Marrying a rich man doesn’t mean you won’t be abused. With this economic freedom many options expand, including building a family without mediocre men. [/quote]

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