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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something is wrong with OP and her husband if they have no friends after staying here for 15 years. [/quote]

I don’t think so. I grew up in Northern Virginia and my parents never had any friends, other than coworkers who lived far, far away and they never got together with outside work. They both grew up in tight knit communities where everyone knew everyone. They each had close friends in high school and college. But they lived in the DC area for almost 25 years and never really made friends there. They’re retired now, left the area and they have friends now in their 70s. There’s something about the DC rat race. [/quote]

Your parents sound very insular.  It does not matter that their coworkers lived far away, did they not have neighbors that they could be friends with?  Imagine being somewhere for 25 years and not making friends.  It is chilling to me.

I am a non-White, non-Christian immigrant who loves DMV. I have made friends  from all races.  My own parents were very social and I grew up learning  how to be a good host and good guest. They taught us how to make friends and nurture friendships.  I wanted to replicate that same environment of a bustling household for my kids.

Do you have friends or are you following in the footsteps of your parents too? [/quote]

Maybe they were a little insular, I don’t know. I think, looking back, it was mostly that their jobs, both with long commutes, took so much of their energy that they didn’t have anything left for social interaction when they were back in our neighborhood. Our street wasn’t particularly social. Pretty much all the adults worked, pulled in their garages at the end of a long day and you hardly saw them. I imagine they maybe could have made friends if they had made more of an effort, but I mentioned the DC rat race because I think there are lots of double income couples who have little energy left for a social life in such a work oriented area.

I settled a few hours from DC in a much more laid back area. I’m happy to say I have close friends. No one commutes very far in my area, if at all anymore, and our neighborhood is known as a social one, so neighbors are out chatting all the time. Very few houses have garages so you can’t really just pull in and hide. There’s a sense of community here that just didn’t exist in my particular corner of the NoVa burbs growing up.[/quote]

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