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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?[/quote]

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.[/quote]

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?[/quote]

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine.  Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?[/quote]

It's an hour out of your day. [b]Most churches have multiple services[/b]. You wouldn't be missing anything.[/quote]

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?[/quote]

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.[/quote]

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks![/quote]

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese. [/quote]

I'm sure it never happened. OP is a troll who can't keep her story straight.[/quote]

I don’t think OP is a troll. I suspect OP harbors a lot of anger regarding the Eucharist and the fact it isn’t extended to non-Catholics. As somebody who joined the Catholic Church as an adult, I can empathize if that is the case. I can also see how that could lead to arguments in a marriage, and ultimately a husband just dropping it to keep the peace.

Or this is all just my speculation. Little to go on here. [/quote]

Yes. You get it. Only I really don’t care if they deny it to non-Catholics, as long as I’m not expected to sit through it. When people insist I do, yes, I get angry and defensive. That’s wrong of me, and it’s something I’ve been working on for well over a decade. I am FINE if he goes. But I will not, because I need to receive His grace in other places.[/quote]

Honestly you know nothing about grace if this is your attitude.
Your husband has demonstrated it better by attending a Church you approve though I'm sure there are things he disagrees with [/quote]

And you know nothing about human nature and kindness, so what's your point? You're sure not selling your faith, I can tell you that. You think I agree with everything our current church teaches? No way. But they welcomed me a Christian and allowed me to practice my faith when his did not. [/quote]

My faith?. I'm not Catholic or Protestant. I rejected Christianity in large part due to people like you that like to play victim but are at the core vile and narcissistic.

You'll never be happy with religion or otherwise because at your core you are deeply insecure.

You don't feel guilty.

[b]You fear one day your DH will discover the empty vessel he married[/b] [/quote]

I’m not PP but um, this is vile.  You aren’t making the case you think you are.[/quote]

+1. That is definitely vile.

OP seems angry and upset, which are understandable emotions we all feel. That doesn’t mean she is “empty.”[/quote]

She's empty because she is a narcissist. 
She's us not genuinely upset by the situation nor does she feel any guilt.

She likes the idea that she has so much power over her husband that he gave up his faith for her

She likes the idea that it's her against the Catholics.

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