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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't you both go to mass together and try it out? What are you afraid of?[/quote]

I'm not interested in going somewhere I can't fully participate. The Eucharist is meaningful to me, so skipping a week to sit at his church like a lump when I could be worshiping isn't something I'm willing to do. I'm totally ok if he goes, though.[/quote]

Well, I see that you're just not willing to compromise or give an inch. Maybe you could go to just see what it's all about and then attend your own service. You don't believe in it so why would you want to fully participate anyway? Have you never attended a religious service for any of your other friends? Weddings? Funerals? Did you pout that you couldn't fully participate or did you attend to support these people in something that was meaningful to them?[/quote]

No, the issue is that by attending his church, I am missing mine.  Weddings and funerals aren't the same since they don't overlap my own worship. See the difference?[/quote]

It's an hour out of your day. [b]Most churches have multiple services[/b]. You wouldn't be missing anything.[/quote]

That take place at roughly the same time of the week. Are you being intentionally obtuse?[/quote]

No moron, many churches have mutlple services. You can go at 7, 9, 11, or 5pm the night before (Saturday) which is common in Catholic Churches. Check the church website, then pick a time and then attend your church at your favorite time. Are you always this difficult? But be real, you have no intention of doing this and are making up BS excuses that don't even make sense. You're scared you might actually like it.[/quote]

No, I have issues being denied the sacraments and being called a whore by DH's priest because we weren't married in his church. So yeah. No interested in the flavor of Christianity who thinks it's ok call someone a moron, thanks![/quote]

DP.
I feel it is worth pointing out that this “flavor of Christianity” didn’t call you that. Instead, one very bad representative of it did.
I had a teacher call me a b**** once. My school didn’t call me that.

Also, did he actually say that? And if so, I certainly hope you reported that to the Archdiocese. [/quote]

I'm sure it never happened. OP is a troll who can't keep her story straight.[/quote]

It nEvEr hApPeNeD To mE, sO ThE PoStEr mUsT Be a tRoLl.

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As if there are priests that fiery and ultra-ultra-orthodox left in the dioceses in the 2010s-2020s! Plus, parish priests are so busy they would hardly have the time, knowledge, nor werewithal to call some random non-attending parishoner’s non catholic wife a “whore”, and ESPECIALLY NOT since a marriage between two baptized persons is already legit although irregular.[/quote]

Two baptized non-Catholics. Not a non-Catholic and Catholic.

Also, we were married in 2008, convalidation talks where this took place happened in 2009.[/quote]
You’re right, my bad. His marriage is invalid and continues to be. Why did you try convalidation talks? And how specificallly did the whore thing slip out?[/quote]

I agreed because I honestly didn’t realize they didn’t consider us married. I didn’t realize I’d have to say vows again, and once I learned that, I realized what a mockery we’d be making of our wedding.

The whore thing…honestly, I don’t remember the details. And to be fair, I think he was using whore in the genre sense as someone in between Christ and His church, not toward me, but that’s difficult to see the difference in the moment.
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It’s unfortunate, but this is precisely why the church discourages mixed marriage. With that being said, I can tell by your own sense of piety and conscience why you would feel a certain guilt but ultimately his falling away from the church is his burden not yours. What do you want besides to not feel guilty anymore? You say he’s a better Christian than ever before in your eyes?

A thought. You could do a truly Christian act of heroic virtue and submit to the Church’s teachings despite your feelings for the sake of your husband’s salvation if you genuinely feel that bad. Who knows, that may be a catalyst to spur him out of his present spiritual lethargy.

Otherwise, ruminating isn’t doing you any good and seems to be a sign of a lack of committing fully to one belief system. Either his soul is at stake or it isn’t.[/quote]

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