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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmm? Still waiting! Still waiting for OP or any of her defenders to address this point:

If my ILs were horrible/rude, I would want to see ***less of them,*** and I wouldn't want them around my baby. I would do cartwheels for every time I didn't have to see them. Heck, my ILs are all-around very nice and fairly unproblematic, and I would still like to see less of them. So please, by all means: take a shot and rationally try to explain to me how OP is justified in thinking they are horrible people, AND wanting them to visit/hold/give gifts more? I would love to see you try to make sense of that. Can you?[/quote]

My DH wants them to interact with his child. I may have zero interest in being around them, but it is important to him that they spend time with his daughter.
He was very hurt that they lived 15 minutes away and did not see the baby for 3 months.

Two things can be true.  I can think that my in laws suck AND also be empathetic to his pain of his family not showing interest.[/quote]

OK? Then he can arrange to see them. He can pick up the phone. HE can make it happen. OP needn't get involved, if she so clearly thinks they are awful people. See how that works?[/quote]

Op here. And during that 3 month period and forward, I didn't/don't get involved. He is in charge of managing and coordinating his family.
I think my inlaws are shitty, for lots of reasons not mentioned in this post, but I have a DH problem. Not in law problem.[/quote]

OK? And? So? Get a divorce if BIL not holding your baby is more important to you than tucking your child in every night, which apparently it is. Everyone has priorities; I guess those are yours.

You've barely talked about your child, by the way. How interesting. Do you have zero emotional connection to your child, that you are contemplating divorce because you don't like people you don't even have to see that often?[/quote]

Annnnnd OP has *still* not mentioned her child and wanting to not risk losing full custody of her child, not once. Her child is totally not a priority. Got. It.[/quote]

You are very fixated on this. I literally already addressed it.
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Yes, OP here and I did post that. My counselor says if I want to leave, she will help work me thru it. If i want to stay (which is what I have said so far because of my child and custody) then we need to communicate. Obviously she can help me cope with how I act/react but without someone working with DH, I don't see much progress to be made.[/quote]
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Np here. This is not the response . If someone who is emotionally attached to their child. This sounds like someone who's a bit narcissistic[/quote]

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