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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DC is at the same table with a boy shouting constantly and never listen to teachers. Another kid at the same class would also scream and cry. My DC told us she’s so tired and depressed but what can we do? I’m sorry for those kids have ADHD or whatever but why is my child the one suffers?[/quote]

Your child will be fine. The ADHD kid - will most likely suffer from debilitating self-esteem issues as he transitions into adolescence, start to not care about school and underperform, and struggle his whole life to maintain healthy relationships. Your daughter will be taking her AP classes and will not have to worry about having those crazy, disruptive kids in her classes anymore. [/quote]

All because one teacher in first grade tried to help him focus, right? :roll:[/quote]

No, not because one teacher tried to help him focus. The pitfalls of ADHD and ASD 1 are almost impossible to avoid. It is an invisible disability that comes with a lot of shame and self-esteem issues. I know that it's hard for many people to understand, but many of the behaviors are beyond the individual's control, or they have to work so much harder to control those issues. It wears on kids over time and they start to give up, turn to drugs and alcohol, self-harm, etc. I've seen it over and over again, regardless of how great a family the child comes from. The difference is that in a family with more means, they are able to get the therapy, accommodations, special programs that the child needs, but the problems are still there. [/quote]

This is an over statement. There are social and emotional issues that can come for kids with ADHD, and I am assuming ASD, but not every kid ends up depressed or struggling with addiction. Yes, ADHD can cause self esteem issues and makes life harder but with proper diagnosis and treatment kids with ADHD can do very well in life.

OPs kid is 6. It sounds like the child is being evaluated after having a challenging start to the school year. It sounds like the OP isn’t ignoring what the Teacher is saying and that the OP is looking for her kids best interest. That said, what ever they have been doing in class isn’t working. The Teacher is trying to help the OPs kid stays on task and not disrupt the other kids. It also sounds like the kid knows that the new seating arrangement is different and is not happy with the change. That makes sense, the 6 year old wants to sit with his friends and not be different.

OPs job is to explain to her son that the Teacher is trying to help him focus and do his best in school. As he gets better at not talking and distracting himself and other kids, he will be able to sit in his old spot. But first he has to learn how to stay focused. Hopefully the OP can work with the Teacher to find a way of rewarding good behavior and less distracting behavior. [/quote]

OP here. Yes, all of this, thank you [/quote]

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