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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year. [/quote]

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that? [/quote]

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite,  not sure which.[/quote]

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it).  "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner.  You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.[/quote]

It sounds like you’d love the food at my house, as we do full meals, but you’d hate the people because no one of any generation would ever think to complain about standing apps dinner, which is pretty commonly served for happy hour/dinner receptions. Do you not socialize often? Because heavy apps, drinks and dessert is a fairly common set up especially for large groups, around the holidays and otherwise.[/quote]

It’s the setting. No one expects a full, multi course meal at a cocktail reception. We’ve been to holiday adult only cocktail parties where apps/drinks are only served. We understand that and eat dinner before leaving kids w babysitter and walking out the door. Some birthday parties and other happy hours have same expectations. However, Christmas Day lunch with kids and tow is an entirely different event. I don’t understand who doesn’t make real good for that? Just seems like poor hosting. If host has sent out invite stating only drinks/apps provided then maybe a different story.

That said, I don’t complain to host. Guests should always be gracious, give thanks to host, and just make mental note if they would prefer not to join following year. I’ve been to a few poorly hosted homes and I know when I need to eat/feed kids before we go to certain family homes. I also remember who the great cooks/hosts are and look fwd to those events. Hosting is definitely an unappreciated art![/quote]

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