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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's telling that some posters are equating reading some books with grandkids to "providing babysitting all day." I can take a guess which age range/generation these posters fall into. 
Also I don't see where OP says anyone is cooking 3 meals a day. When we visit ILs we are going to grab sandwiches or whatever for everyone, including them. They certainly are not spending hours in the kitchen doing anything. [/quote]

OP doesn't want to help with the chores at the in-laws house, she wants the in-laws to help with her chores (dishes, babysitting and sheets) on top of their hosting duties. That tells you all you need to know about what her expectations are. She thinks helping with the dishes and sheets is helping in-laws with their chores, and not just picking up after herself. No mention is made of cooking and general household maintenance and who is doing what, obviously OP is doing none of that or she would have mentioned in her martyrdom. [/quote]

Do you think OP Is just washing the dishes she used?[/quote]

Generally that is what is meant by "wash our own dishes." What do you think it means?[/quote]

I've literally never been in a household where there is a sink full of dishes and people pick out and wash only the ones they have used.[/quote]

You could imagine what OP really meant or just go by what she said. But the wording is specific.[/quote]

You could imagine OP’s in-laws don’t own a dishwasher, making this chore a really short one, but that wouldn’t fit your narrative of OP up to her elbows in suds for an hour every night. Alone, because her DH shouldn’t be expected to help, amirite?[/quote]

That's OPs own narrative. Most of us are saying doing her dishes and stripping the bed are the least she can do. OP never said she was doing ALL the dishes, she's apparently not doing any cooking either. She's just mad she has to "nanny" her own kids on top of some light chores in the name of being a "good guest" because she thought she was going on a resort vacation and would be able to relax and chat the whole time with her lazy husband.[/quote]

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