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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is so dumb. The LW isn't even talking about someone who dislikes dogs. She's mad that he's indifferent to her dog. Like it upsets her that he's not falling all over himself about how great her dog is. That's ridiculous.

I like animals and have had pets my whole life (just a cat now, I live in an apartment and have a kid and a dog doesn't work for us right now) but sometimes I'm indifferent to other people's pets. They are like humans -- some have personalities that I just click with and some don't. I don't dislike them, but I don't go seeking them out either. I have some friends who have dogs they've never really trained not to jump up on people, which I find annoying, so I avoid those dogs a bit because I don't like being jumped on. I actually was attacked by a poorly socialized dog many years ago so I am wary about dogs that jump or just aren't well trained because I've seen what happens when a dog like this feels cornered or threatened and it can be scary.

Anyway, the LW sounds like she's being narcissistic and thinks this guy's feelings about her dog are somehow a reflection of his feelings about her. But I also think probably they aren't a good fit because she obviously seems to be looking for someone who is really into her dog, and this guy isn't. But that doesn't make him a BAD PERSON. FFS.[/quote]
This!  I grew up with pets, and I loved the dogs we had growing up.  But I'm overall indifferent to other people's pets, with a few exceptions.  I don't really like being around poorly trained dogs.  I don't hate them or anything, I just don't enjoy being barked at, jumped on, sniffed, lunged at, etc.  And frankly, very few people properly train their dogs.  There are some dogs I enjoy being around.  I prefer certain breeds and temperaments.  But even when I like a dog, I'm unlikely to be fawning all over it.  The LW in the CH column isn't mad that her boyfriend is cruel to her dog or even hates dogs in general.  She's mad that he's not fawning all over her dog, and instead of just saying, "Well, maybe we're not compatible because not loving all dogs in a demonstrative manner is a deal breaker for me," she has to make it into a character flaw.

Which is a thing that some dog owners do.  It can't be that you're just not as into dogs as they are, or that you just don't really click with their dog, or even that their dog is poorly trained and so badly behaved, it must be that YOU are a BAD PERSON.  It's so odd.  [/quote]

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