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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised at all the negative answers. I went to an all girls' school and didn't interact much with boys until college. I was shy around boys for maybe the first week of college? but in a coed dorm I got over it quickly.  I dated in college and grad school and am happily married to a man I met after grad school. Zero regrets about my all girls education and I'd send my daughter to a secular all girls' school in a heartbeat if I could find one around here.

Also, some of my high school classmates dated boys they met at extracurriculars, church, or our brother school. If your DD wants to find boys, she can. [/quote]

I assume many women have the same experience as you, likely the majority of women who go to all girls’ schools. But it’s the smaller number of women who have difficulty that is concerning. Even if it’s a small minority, the repercussions of feeling socially awkward and even getting married to a bad match is bad enough that it’s worth worrying about. And whether it was causative or just correlated, it seems that some women think it stemmed from not having male friendship/romance before college. It does make sense in my mind that women who went to an all girls’ school and did not have male friendships prior to college would be more naive and have poorer judgment about relationships. [/quote]

+1000 PP! I know several women who went to all girls' schools, and honestly how well they did with dating and relationships depended on whether they had meaningful other interactions with boys at least in high school, if not in middle school too.  Those who literally had almost no regular social contact with boys at minimum had really rough starts to dating and had some bad experiences that stuck with them for life even if they ended up happily married.  And at the worst end of the spectrum, some of them really suffered from not being able to or be comfortable with navigating power relationships for most of their adulthoods. Therapy helped a few, but just as PP said, it's a significant enough # of girls who struggle later that it is well worth worrying about and maybe taking steps to socialize them among boys long before they leave your house for college.[/quote]

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