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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tired of the posters here pretending to be "confused" about the topic while flexing about their gourmet chef husbands. Everyone knows this is a source of generational conflict. Boomer women have no problem with planning, cooking and cleaning up while the men watch football. Millennial women feel differently. Why?
My theory is because families are smaller and more spread out now. In my mom's generation she had her sister, mother, sister-in-law and so on all in the kitchen together, drinking wine and chatting while they did their thing. Now the burden is often on one or two women so the men need to step up.[/quote]

Sure, I enjoy cooking with the women in my family. That hasn't changed.

But maybe millennials realize how sexist and unfair this all is and have been empowered to speak up, so they are?[/quote]

+1. “My thing” as a 10-year-old was not to clear the table with my sister and female cousins while my brother and male cousins were allowed to continue to sit and relax. “My thing” today is to cook and clean and plan and make wonderful holidays—right alongside my husband.

We work with our respective families to make a plan. Every adult participates in some way, even if it is my dad going to the grocery store numerous times while my mom does the meal planning and most of the prep. My sister and I (and to some extent, all of our kids) help my mom set up and cook, DH and my BIL do all the clean-up, with my dad taking out trash and dealing with the recycling bins. This is just one example of how holidays go. For both sides of the family, DH and I are full participants, and my kids know that holidays, vacations and family dynamics = everybody helps, everybody participates, everybody benefits. It’s not one exhausted mom making Christmas magic. That’s not how we operate. [/quote]

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