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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]OP get real for a second. This isn’t about what a great hostess you are. I’m sure your spread is lovely, but what’s driving this is in laws’ fears about access to the kids especially around holidays, probably also because your ex is downplaying what this separation really is (a divorce in progress). They aren’t the enemy here - they love your kids and are transitioning in this new phase just like you are. Be honest with them about what is going on and let them know they will have access to the kids when your husband has them for holidays, and move on with grace.[/quote]

This is great advice, but OP will need to dig a lot deeper to find some empathy. Don't trust that we are getting the full story here - I'm sure OP's DH has some complaints about her, too, presumably one being that she seems pretty cold.[/quote]

OP: yes, this cold, cold OP was so cold that she was the one who broke the news to the ILs. She was the one who sat them down, talked to them, wiped their tears, reassured time and time again they would have full access to the grandchildren. They will see them through the holidays when they are with stbexdh. He was too scared to tell them "what will my parents think of me?"

I am not going to pretend we are one big happy family. We never were. In the meantime, they have full access to the children. They can call any time, which, by the way, they haven't. They can come to their games, which, by the way, they also haven't. Being "a family" is not just pretty holiday pictures.[/quote]

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